Yes, I should've listen to the older, wiser women, but I brushed my doubts under the proverbial rug.
But it's more than just both of you believing in God and attending church...
...Not only does God needs to be the glue that holds you both together, but you need to take it one step further and tell Him that He is the center of your marriage... Together.
Praying together is a whole new level of intimacy between you and your husband. It was something I had never done before, and really, it scared me to death. I don't know why, I guess I'd just never shared that part of my life with anyone before, except my boys. And even still, when we pray together, David is the one that says it. I have a couple of times, but it's taking me a while to get comfortable with it. He wants me to more, but I like that he does. He is the head of our marriage, and I like him to lead me spiritually.
The first time David and I prayed together was actually over the phone. We lived in different states before we were married, and had many obstacles to overcome before the wedding. Blending families will do that. Each time we came upon a problem we'd pray, and the Lord would guide us through the issue with ease.
Once we were married, prayer became our nightly ritual, and If I remember right, we've only missed a couple of nights since then due to extenuating circumstances. I firmly believe that the success of our marriage is directly related to our nightly prayers, and putting the Lord first in our marriage.
I hope we will always continue to pray together every night. We both understand the importance of it, and neither of us ever try to opt out for any reason. If David is sick, then I say the prayer, either way, it gets said. Sometimes they might be short and sweet, especially after extremely long road trips, but even then, we still take a few moments to thank God for our life together.
I hope this doesn't come across as some kind of pat on our back, I don't mean it that way at all. David and I have both messed up in our past, and neither of us ever want to be back one of those situations. We are just so thankful to have each other, and we know that it would never have been possible if it were up to us. As David likes to say "humans are not creative, God is. The only thing we can create is a mess." We needed the Lord, and the Lord helped us and guided us. We owe everything we have to God, and my prayer is that we will spend the rest of our lives serving Him daily for everything He's done for us.