She and my brother in law just celebrated their 32nd anniversary, and talking about it she said: "He and I have disagreed over the years. We've had fights and knock down drag outs, but in the end, the Lord picked me to take care of him and I take that job very seriously."
That is a point of view I love so much. I think every woman should go into marriage with that attitude. I worry that women feel they should be spoiled rotten in a marriage, and when they find out it's work they are disappointed.
In fact this would work for husbands too. Husbands and wives both should understand that the Lord picked them to take care of their mate. If we live everyday with that thought in mind, our marriages would be better than they've ever been. I really do believe that.